It's a big deal, this forgiveness thing. Easy to talk about, especially when somebody else has to do the forgiving. But when it comes down to ourselves....well, that's another story.
Here are a few thoughts about forgiveness that may help all of us.
To forgive those who insult you, belittle you, attack you or take you for granted is the first step. But just as importantly, forgive yourself for allowing them to hurt you. No one can dimish you unless you let them.
Harboring bitterness and resentment toward someone else actually ties you to that person emotionally. You are allowing their actions to control how you feel. Forgiveness is the only way to break the connection and liberate yourself.
To forgive doesn't mean letting the offender "get away with it." What it does do is liberate you from the burden of victimhood. To forgive does not give the offender the right to hurt you again. It releases you from being in bondage to the fear of being hurt again.
When you forgive someone, it doesn't mean you have to trust them again. It does mean, however, that if they truly repent for what they did and come to you with a sincere apology, becuase you've already forgiven, you are then free to give them a second chance. You are free to experience the liberating joy of reconciliation.
Finally, forgiving isn’t something you do for someone else. It’s something you do for yourself. It’s recognizing and acknowledging that you, too, are human; you, too, makes mistakes and when you do, the forgiveness of others towards you will be a precious gift. It has been said, "If you want a friend, be a friend." It could just as easily be said, "If you'll want forgiveness when you blow it, then forgive others now."
Are you annoyed or troubled about something that's been done to you? Choose to forgive - it IS a choice, not an emotion. Choose forgiveness and then let it go.